Co-dependency in Relationships
Many people enter relationships / marriages not realizing their subconscious attachments to it. They instead are led by the infatuation of the connection they are drawn to. Not truly understanding the connection, being either healthy or unhealthy.
Connections speak volumes in the foundation of a relationship/marriage. In fact, paying attention developing greater awareness to the connection will help you understand what’s being addressed in the connection. Understanding our own connection and trauma-bonds within it provides validation in self-growth and the shared relationship.Often relationships become unhealthy due to the root cause of the poor mould of the relationship. The root cause is the area, that requires deep healing, understanding, forgiveness, clarity and restoration.
A lot can occur in a marriage or relationship, but the root cause is not about the story or content of the relationship and more about the trapped emotions, blockages, feelings and meaning held within the root cause of a dysfunctional / toxic marriage/ relationship.
When we ignore the required healing for the root cause of our problems, we lack the growth that is needed to evolve. Pulling us out of alignment from our truth self.
Staying connected, deepening our relationship with ourselves will help us to understand ourselves on a deeper level. Forming congruence in the growth of ourselves and what we need to learn to evolve further.
Co-dependency is found in many relationships. Co-dependency is a trauma-bond developed in childhood and reflected in relationships as an adult. There would have been a version of abandonment, neglect, emotional abuse, narcissism and addiction in the child’s upbringing. Creating trapped emotions forming co-dependency. To feel accepted and validated in themselves, they validate someone else’s needs, neglecting the important needs of their own to please another. Lacking in self-love, self-car and personal boundaries.
It's a destructive pattern of behaviour where an individual becomes excessively reliant on another person for their emotional well-being, self-worth, or identity.
Co-dependency can occur in various types of relationships—whether romantic, familial, or platonic. It's most commonly associated with relationships involving addiction, mental health issues, or other forms of dysfunction.
In a codependent relationship, the codependent individual often feels a sense of responsibility for the emotional state or actions of the other person, even to the point of enabling destructive behaviour. This pattern reinforces unhealthy dynamics and creates a cycle of emotional turmoil that can be difficult to break, instead of enforcing healthy boundaries in support of the longevity of the relationship.
Co-dependency is linked to a low self-esteem and lack of self-worth. Deriving their sense of identity from their ability to care for or be needed by others.The reliance on external validation prevents them from developing a strong sense of self and healthy personal boundaries. The great news is one can heal the patterns and root cause of co-dependent behaviour through self-awareness, boundaries and healing techniques. Building your self-esteem and developing healthier, more balanced relationships. The first step in this process is self-awareness. Recognizing and acknowledging codependent patterns is crucial for breaking the cycle. This often involves examining past relationships, identifying unhealthy behaviours, and reflecting on the underlying emotional needs that drive the co-dependency.
Jocelyn’s H&T Coaching Modality help individuals explore their negative thought patterns and emotional triggers, as well as develop healthier coping strategies and communication skills. Having commitment, holding yourself accountable to long-term process requires patience, perseverance, and a willingness to confront difficult emotions and past wounds. However, with the right support and tools, it is possible to develop healthier, more fulfilling relationships and lead a more autonomous, self-empowered life.
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